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 More than a decade ago, I was reminded we as members of the Air Force are simply a cross-section of our society.
 As an Air Force, we must remain alert to what is presented as societal norms, which our Airmen may embrace, but that our Air Force simply can ill afford to embrace.
 I'm not saying I have cornered all the reasons, nor all the answers to a moral and criminal dilemma, or why we have Airmen assaulting fellow Airmen.
'The Elephant in the Room'

Posted 12/16/2012 Email story   Print story

    


Commentary by Lt. Col. W.E. Gene Mattingly
87th Mission Support Group


12/16/2012 - JOINT BASE MCGUIRE-DIX-LAKEHURST, N.J. (AFNS) -- This commentary is in regard to the recently published Air Force chief of staff memo and corresponding articles, "Combating Sexual Assault in the Air Force," "CSAF directs Air Force-wide inspection," and "CSAF talks leadership with wing commanders." I've got chills up my spine at the very deliberate leadership focus by our new CSAF, and I certainly feel his "call to arms" to destroy sexual assault in our Air Force, but also to really get after ensuring we foster a workplace environment of respect, trust and professionalism in the workplace.

I'm having trouble understanding how Airmen could hurt fellow Airmen through sexual assault or any form of sexual harassment for that matter. I'm convinced the problem is much more systemic than we give it credit. More than a decade ago, I was reminded we as members of the Air Force are simply a cross-section of our society. Personally, I like to think we represent the very best of our society. I've learned the hard way that is not so. I still keep my glass half-full, and for the most part, I earnestly believe that we have a majority of the very best.

The issue is those who make-up the worst of our society somehow make it into our great Air Force too. Not wanting to say that broken homes and relationships, rampant internet pornography and addictions to it, and continued abuse of alcohol are the reasons, but they are certainly contributing factors, and they just might be the "elephant in the room." I think the problem is related more to our moral fabric than anything else.

As an Air Force, we must remain alert to what is presented as societal norms, which our Airmen may embrace, but that our Air Force simply can ill afford to embrace. We must hold ourselves to a much higher standard. As an example, many think the core value of integrity is relative, not clear cut right or wrong. When, in fact, that portrayed as right is clearly a violation of personal integrity. Some people in our society may even chastise me for my moral high-ground stance on certain issues because it is counter to an overall societal view these days.

A year ago or so ago my first sergeant goaded me, "Hey sir, do you want a real education about what's going on 'out there?'--come with me to the Club Friday or Saturday night, or better yet sir, let's go downtown." I'm pretty sure I'm glad I didn't go, but as a commander I spent a lot of time thinking about discipline after the fact. Thinking back, quite possibly, going with the Shirt a time or two may have been a good idea--and maybe just maybe it would have deterred some deviant behaviors.

I'm not saying I have cornered all the reasons, nor all the answers to a moral and criminal dilemma, or why we have Airmen assaulting fellow Airmen.

This issue makes me about as sad as anything does after more than 26 years of honorable Air Force service. As an Airman, I'm ready and willing to be part of the solution, not the problem. I'm confident most of us are. The challenge is not to be passive or unwilling to talk about the "elephants" we see. Be frank, open and honest, holding one another accountable - let's see where it leads. To an even better Air Force? - I'm all in.



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12/18/2012 9:28:20 AM ET
Jersey Girl VA great points. I have and will. Granted as a one- two-stripper I probably was more prone to condone unintentionally such outlandish behavior e.g. inappropriate comments but I never would have nor would ever condone or stand by silently in the face of assault or other deviant behaviors. Thanks for keeping me accountable and for having the conversation. Indeed the most important aspect of this is having the conversation. Again thank you for your comment. Also I have been married since I was a one-stripper and I have never routinely associated with those who make sexist comments and I've been very fortunate in my service career to not have been exposed to leadership who condoned devaluing fellow human beings with sexist comments or overtures etc. I'm sure it has happened and I know it was dealt with accordingly. Granted devastingly so there were most likely incidents where it wasn't--for that I'd be ashamed. I do hope I'm an example to others by how
W.E. Gene Mattingly Lt Col, JB MDL NJ
 
12/18/2012 9:22:49 AM ET
It's a new generation problem. All the colonels don't seem to understand it but it happens constantly. Your first shirt said it best you could go to a club on a weekend and be shocked at what some of these model Airmen are participating in. Media peer pressure and lack of purpose.
Charlie, Dyess
 
12/17/2012 7:08:48 PM ET
Sir Your First Sergeant gave good advice.
David, Joint Base Pearl Harbor-Hickam
 
12/17/2012 2:50:30 PM ET
Each of us is responsible for taking care of our wingmen that means both the perpetrator and intended victims. If you have been in the Service for 26 years and you are just now ready to be part of the solution then you must have been part of the bystanders that didn't take action. I find it very hard to believe that in 26 years of service that you never heard a sexist comment. What did you do when you heard it Did you pull your wingman aside to correct it or did you just tolerate it
Jersey Girl, Virginia
 
12/17/2012 9:19:10 AM ET
i'll say it. This is what happends when you let something fester and rot without taking care of it. Now Leadership is doing too little too late. I get it not everyone is a bad person. but the fact that this problem has been brewing for years shows how much they care. Only reason why it's a big deal now is beacuse Lackland is allover the front page.
John Smith, My TARDIS
 
12/17/2012 8:53:45 AM ET
As a prior First Sergeant seeing some of the activities at a typical club can be eye opening to older folks. The shifts in what is acceptable behavior has certainly changed over the generations. Right or wrong there is an overt shift.
Retired Chief, Alabama
 
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